Women tended to view me as effete. Not in the sense that I was necessarily viewed to be interested in men sexually but in the sense they did not view me as having the masculine qualities of strength they craved in mates. I was, however, accepted as a confider to talk about men and their desires.
This was not the case with most males I encountered. They felt weakened by my presence. Those that knew me tread lightly and silenced themselves and fell victim to fear. It wasn’t because I was a fonz who might hit them. I think it was because men viewed the women who gathered around me as somehow granting me ultra-masculinity and they became afraid of me because they thought I could affect their “chances” because I could also compete with them physically on an equal basis without attempting to dominate over them physically.
Well that’s why I think men, as they came to know me, walked on eggshells and I seemingly had power over them I didn’t seek by overpowering them. They came around me to get nearer to the women,but they respected that I was equal to them in my masculinity.
While everyone does not agree with me, the archaeological evidence is beginning to accumulate that humans were primarily matriarchally structured. There is also global evidence being accumulated that suggests great gatherings and I believe that in these gatherings genetic diversity was maintained by women selecting males that were as diverse from their own clans as possible. Men that were chosen then went to live with the matriarchal clan.
Then unchosen males remained with their family but the new men were greatly intimidated by their presence because the males who didn’t mate successfully were still seen as being embedded within the clan. There was as much diversity in y-chromosome inheritance as in mitochondrial DNA. And my theory is based on the fact that this diversity would have been possible only if women continually mated with males divergent from themselves genetically as was possible.
Beginning seven thousand years and concluding five thousand years ago, this diversity began to end and by roughly 3000 BCE only five percent of the y-DNA that had existed in Europe, Asia,the Near East, and into parts of Northeastern Africa still existed.
We have also found archaeological sites dating to this period of massive graves in these regions of multitudes of men having been mutilated; a few older women and no breeding age women.
We also now know humans had been living in larger collectives than had been assumed and had already developed advancements in tool use and agriculture and in many areas plumbing that wouldn’t be equalled for any but the elite until the twentieth century.
There have been several theories put forth for this loss of y-chromosomal inheritance. Massive warfare between neighboring clans because of over-population. But losing 95%? Too much. There had to be a massive continental loss that could not be explained by neighboring massacres to conquer the other. It had to be a single group of warriors that conquered the entire continent.
Another possibility that has been put forth is a disease. Well a disease would not have mutilated the bodies even though at least one disease potentially can leave men infertile even today that I know of and that is the mumps. Or at least that is the claim and yet many boys of my generation caught the mumps and still fathered children. It probably would only affect men who had already sexually matured. But there is no disease that is discriminate enough to only kill men.
But there is a third possibility that most researchers don’t choose to entertain because it would destroy the cherished belief that somehow we just became smart enough seven thousand years ago to evolve into civilizations and become technologically more brilliant, or at least a few men evolved to become evolutionary more intelligent.
And just to throw more kindles on this ideology, we know seven thousand years or so ago there was a great migration, not of hunter-gatherers but of herders. These herders, instead of developing toology or agriculture, herded horses and built carts to hitch the animals to. They then rode from the great steppes west, south, and southeast at this time.
To me it becomes obvious—they killed the men and the male DNA that had been now became only their DNA, and the women survived to insure that their DNA would survive—and only their DNA, then a thousand years later there was a small resurgence in y-chromosome diversity–only a slight increase.
But those who had led the invasions dominated. It is said that today eight percent of mongolian-chinese y-DNA is of Genghis Khan (a much later, but similar steppe marauding) and two percent of all eastern european DNA.
The nature of communities became patriarchal, not brilliant,and superiority was maintained by introducing Gods who were just as evil as they were. Their hands washed themselves in these Gods that gave them the authority.
Wars of genocide began and ownership of the resources eliminated challenges from the less favored descendents. Kings began and men forever after saw women as part and parcel of the properties they owned.
I continue to play this record because it is only through this long-playing event that we continue to believe in superior man. If this idea can be debunked; then we can begin to debunk the idea of superior/inferior man and the idea that the world reached some kind of evolutionary pinnacle in Mankind—some of mankind at any rate.
To understand repeat this mantra in your mind:
“The only way to be inferior to no one is to recognize you can never be superior to anyone.”
That’s a pretty tough sell.
But long ago the women I knew sold me on becoming the brother/uncle and men never acted superior to me but sought my blessing when they pursued the women into which community I had entered.
Sometimes I get new subscribers who read one post and withdraw their subscription. Why not leave a comment and explain what you object to. I’m not so small-minded to be unable to handle disagreement. I thrive on it; and try to learn from it.
This is a column that makes you pause and put it down to pick it up down the road. I will do that because it is something to think about.