Needs of the parent

Distorting Want Into Need pt. 2

The parent, and if she chooses to marry and/or have a co-parent that forms some variation in parenthood, gives birth to an individual that is not the self of the parent(s). Inherited characteristics can skip generations.  Inherited alleles may skip generations, a child does not necessarily inherit everything from just two sets of parental chromosomes, but from all of the common alleles from both participants’ alleles.  Thus we get Mendel’s  yellow pea, sometimes, appearing even from two green peas. Although rare, two blue eyed people can have a brown eyed offspring.  But that’s the physical side,  the personality of the child can be much more diverse.  I am not sure that anyone knows how personality develops or exactly what alleles combine within the sets of chromosomes that develop into the formation of the personality.  I don’t know if those personalities can develop so the child is born “straight” or born “gay” though there is a lot of proponents of both sides, a newborn (unless physically) is not born in such manner that he is even aware of his sexual gender, a boy doesn’t know he is a boy, or vice-versa until he is informed of his gender.  I’m pretty sure that even an androgynous child is not born consciously aware of his dual-nature.  But that doesn’t necessarily mean that sexual inclination has to be “told” to the child.  As he becomes self-aware of his identity he will also become aware of his gender at some point, I should think, at least a male lion will begin to recognize his maleness, at some point.  But I am unwilling to take sides on the issue if someone is born with a particular sexual orientation or if that is part of his experiential existence, or if it is a combination of both.  

But  if anyone has observed two children from the moment of birth throughout their first few months that they simply don’t all respond to any, let alone all, stimuli in the same way. Now authors from Locke to Skinner have pretty much been proven wrong to believe we are born “blank slates” that are totally shaped by our environment.. In April and May, I wrote several articles on the development of personality and I listed several studies that have observed personalities and followed them throughout their lives.  But while they point out that from birth a child displays a distinctive personality, what the studies that  followed these newborns illustrate is that they discovered that no matter the early personality it was not determinative of how he would grow to “behave”. There is definitely an interaction with the experiences the personality interacts with and this confluence of experience on personality creates what we term behavior.  

I suggested, in those articles, that left alone the child would grow into his personality and that true diversity is the diversity of human personalities, not dependent on any ethnicity of religion or “race”.   A black child who experiences being treated black, then becomes a black person rather than a human person.  But the personality of that child that the child is born with may (most probably will) affect how he adjusts to the experience of being labeled black.  And certainly no infant is born a Jew, a Muslim, or an atheist.  But the personality will determine his reaction of whether to adhere, or not adhere, to the beliefs of parents or whether he will reject that religion. The personality responds to the experience of the religion and that  relationship of the personality determines through the lens of that experience to accept or seek a different religion or non-religious perspective.  Religion is an experience, but the personality reacts to not only the teachings of the religion but to the experience of the effects of that religion through his observation of that religion by the experiences he encounters with the religion.  So most of what we call diversity is made-up classifications that detract from the real human diversity of personality.  

So this is why I began this series with Rebbe Friedman’s concept that the child does not need the parent.  What I mean by that, and what I interpret him to mean, is not that the infant has no need for material support, especially in his earliest years.  But he does not need the  parent to develop his personality, that is his alone.  He owns his personality.  He doesn’t need the parent to continue to create him after his birth.  

So let’s return to our molecules.  The oxygen needs to combine with other molecules.  Oxygen prefers to combine with almost anything other than itself.  It is one of the more common elements in the universe.  So if there is say, an available carbon molecule we have CO, carbon monoxide.  More commonly, since the earth’s atmosphere has a lot of carbon molecules, oxygen jumps on board with two carbon molecules.  Carbon (there are three isotopes of carbon, but C14 is unstable.  But the stable carbon isotopes can combine quickly at earth temperature and can combine into all types of unique allotropes and to form both organic and non-organic compounds.  It is also utilized when man shapes it into “artificial” polymers. So while our bodies use atmospheric oxygen for the energy we require, the oxygen we inhale will bond with some of the carbon in our bodies that also is  included in most of the chemicals in our bodies; and of course we expel as our waste the CO2  Now here is a little tidbit of nonsense.  The biomass of all CO2 exhalers in one day exceeds the total amount in one day of all the CO2 released into the atmosphere by the burning of all fuels.  It's a tidbit of nonsense as a stand-alone stat because the biomass of all  oxygen exhalers is a ratio of roughly five hundred times greater.  Even when you add the exhaust from burning fossil fuels with the exhalations of all animals there is still more oxygen, but the problem is oxygen prefers to bond with any element other than itself.  And we do not breathe oxygen anyway, we breathe dioxygen    That means there needs to be double the oxygen plus.  The plus is because oxygen does not become dioxygen without a surplus of oxygen above other elements in which it will combine first.  Also when a lifeform decomposes the oxygen is lost by combing and becomes something else other than oxygen.

Note stats are skewed because I used the amount of carbon a single human supposedly exhales times the estimated entire animal biomass subdivided by the average weight of a single human.  So the calculation is prejudiced and probably much less, or maybe more, since the biomass of cattle is nearly twice that of humans,  than I have suggested. Also I have dropped the biomass of  protists, fungi, bacteria, and archaea, all much greater than animal biomass, as well as viruses over 3 times the biomass of humans. 

https://www.pnas.org/doi/full/10.1073/pnas.1711842115#:~:text=We%20find%20that%20the%20biomass,composed%20of%20arthropods%20and%20fish.

Well that was just a fun waste of your time, but the point is that elements are continually forming, so neither C or O retains its “personality” but reacts to its “experience” of encountering other elements—and the key of course is carbon doesn’t just fly around looking for another C and one O, they form into other things and are no longer C or O, or any solo isotope of either.  But we can take the elements of C and O and we can develop them by combining them into the elements we want them to be (carbon much more than oxygen because of it properties, that I am equating to personality in humans,  So the personality of some humans can be more malleable to being shaped by certain stimuli, while some personalities might be more repelled by certain experiences.

And yet we attempt to mold all personalities.  Parents might try to place expectations on the child and mold the child’s personality to fulfill what the parent wants the child to become.  Children become chemicals in a laboratory to be shaped the way the parent, and then the community wants.

Wanting Power Instead of Providing Needs

Now sometime close to 10,000 years ago, some men began to want and humanity began to transform from a community that needed each other into a community that wanted from each other by creating a power structure built upon wants with those with the most wants taking more of the needs from others who now began to want what they needed.  

So humans were no longer a species that didn’t need anything because its needs could be supplied by the community, if not here, then there.  If not now, then soon, never later, because later is too late to supply the needs if they become unavailable.

Those who wanted frequently did not supply enough needs if their wants could be supplied by taking away more needs, and community for all purposes that had supplied its members to not lack in their needs because for the most part did not lack in needs, there wants never exceeded their needs, and they respected the community structure that supplied their needs and they respected what was given to them that left them without wanting more.

But as soon as a few wanted to take away the others’ needs, the others wanted to have more of their needs fulfilled.  The parent became wanted to supply children who were needed to supply the needs of those who wanted to have the needs that had been taken from them.

In such a community, wants became as extravagant as the needs they were able to extract from others allowed them to be. And if we can return to Henry Ford for just a moment, his want to extract more from others led him to a peculiar conclusion that he could have more of his wants if he not only supplied those he was utilizing to advance his own wants enough to have their own needs fulfilled but to given the opportunity to want more than they needed.  And the more he built into others to want, the greater the power he wielded to extract more of his own wants. 

And the problem with wanting more than one needs is that to have more than one needs one has to exert more and more power over those he uses.  And by allowing others to also want more he created a society as unstable as carbon14.  Of course society had always been unstable since those who wanted created a community that no longer didn’t have needs because it no longer had what it needed.  The environment had to supply the needs of the species that lived on it, because no species survived if its needs were not met it did not survive as a species.  

So the first wants were of course for sperm donors to deny the needs of the parent to choose the sperm donor which created a stable influx of the personalities  necessary to continue to insure the needs of the society.  This first power created the want of the child to support the needs of the two parents.  This created the need to conform the child to fulfill the needs of the parent.  And while still keeping all of these initial wants, the offer to those formerly in need to be able to participate (not to the same extent) in the wants that they had only been supplying created a nuclear explosion we call a consumer society.

But a consumer society supplied with ever more and more opportunities to participate creates a perpetually endless series of increasing wants to even believe they want to be replaced by “AI” as superior to themselves and so they readily sacrifice their own personalities because of their want of what will make them even more superfluous.  And yet while all of this has been brewing, the percolator that it is being brewed upon has thrown the door open to a massive power play of delusion sponsored by an inchoate comprehension that wants need power that is becoming dailey more usurped by a tensive environment   that is still predicated on stealing needs from others to gain more power and the realization that the more wants are shared with others; the less available to the self whose own wants isolate him further and further from the community.

So the end is coming, like it or not, either through an environmental upheaval that will make wants more and more unobtainable or a society that erupts into such chaos that it eliminates anyone who might be perceived to be wanting more, while those who have the most gaggle in glee because they will no longer need anyone if they can create everything they want, without needing human beings to supply their needs.

So we can return to the science fiction of today that shows us by the very popularity of its dystopian struggle, that that truth is fiction only in that we are unable to sacrifice our individual wants and will let the terminator kill us in preference to giving up anything we want.

The key is that the reformation needed is to recognize that if our needs are satisfied we don’t need to want, because we won’t have any needs and if we have no needs, we can return to a state of semi-equilibrium.

 If our needs are satisfied they will be satisfied by the recognition that humanity as a species needs diverse personalities and personalities that are free from being conformed into diverse ethnicities but are recognized by the balance of personalities needed so that the community does not lack in its needs.  And the first step is to give the parent (the mother) the right to select the mates that will give them the best opportunity to select the sperm donors that will give the community the optimal opportunity to develop the personalities it needs to prevent the fewest possible unstable personalities from developing again.

Therein lies our possible “salvation”,to be what we evolved to be—without the help of God perhaps, but with respect for ourselves within our communities.